The Language of Toddlers and Pre-Schoolers

As a child grows he or she develops and expands the ‘vocabulary’ of body language. New behaviours can emerge seemingly overnight, and old behaviours can take on entirely new meanings. Perhaps the most dramatic changes occur during the toddler and preschool years, when children go through the process of mastering verbal communication.

Common Body Language of Toddlers

Let’s start with a look at toddlers and the typical body language they use. Because words are not a very good option at this point, body language is used almost continuously. Examples of such behaviours include:

• Reaching out a hand
• Pointing
• Touching
• Making eye contact
• Shaking or nodding the head
• Pushing something or someone away
• Pulling something or someone closer

Now, these examples apply to both toddler interactions with adults and other toddlers. With other toddlers, though, body language is apt to be more pronounced and forceful. So, for instance, if one toddler wants the toy another toddler is using, he or she will just walk up and grab it to take it away.

Body language is also a powerful indicator of a toddler’s comfort level with a particular situation. Think about a group of toddlers in a play area, and you can easily picture some playing happily, some engaged in conflict with each other, and one or two hanging back and not participating at all. It’s easy to imagine those hanging back being uncomfortable in the groups, but those involved in conflicts are often just as uncomfortable. They simply express their discomfort by becoming very assertive rather than very submissive.

Common Body Language of Preschoolers

Preschoolers typically display most of the same non-verbal behaviours as toddlers, but they expand the meaning of these messages even further by adding in words. Examples of this include:

• Pointing to a toy and asking to play with it rather than grabbing it
• Approaching someone who is hanging back and inviting him or her to come play
• Pushing and name calling
• Hugs and squealing
• Exaggerated pouting, accompanied by indignant words

Can you see the pattern emerging here? Preschoolers still depend on body language a great deal (as do adults) but are learning how to combine verbal and non-verbal strategies to express themselves and get what they want.

One of the most common occurrences in these early preschool years is attempting to tell a lie. This may seem like a small thing, but it has huge implications for the years to come. When a child first attempts lying with words, body language almost inevitably gives them away. They have trouble making eye contact, they may hang their head, or otherwise appear tentative.

From First Words to Full Sentences

As a child moves from first words to full sentences, his or her body language undergoes tremendous changes as well. During infancy the primary means of communication is body language and non-verbal cues, and most toddlers have developed an amazing array of non-verbal vocabulary. When words start to emerge, however, it is a confusing time for the child and it’s easy for frustration to set in.

For instance, a child might be trying to say a particular word, but nearby adults can’t quite make it out. The child knows what he or she is saying, though, and irritation levels quickly escalate. A child’s body language often takes over at that point, whether in the form of crying, pouting, hitting, or some other expression of aggravation and frustration.

This is a very challenging time for parent and child alike, requiring a great deal of patience and understanding. Parents can make the process easier for everyone by avoiding situations where frustration might occur (missing a nap, becoming over stimulated, unfamiliar and frightening circumstances) and being prepared to redirect the child’s attention if aggravation sets in. Redirection might include keeping a favourite book on hand, or a small colouring book with crayons – anything that can quickly and easily capture a child’s attention and move it away from the communication problems.

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