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Body Language Questionnaire: How to Tell If Someone Likes You

By: Libby Pelham BA - Updated: 18 Sep 2016 | comments*Discuss
 
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Relationships can be confusing. Sometimes people say things they don’t mean or don’t say the right things at the right time. How can a person tell if someone really likes them?

Understanding one’s body language can give a good insight into that person’s true feelings. This questionnaire is a good reference for understanding if a person is really interested or not, based on his or her body language.

Questions:

  1. Does the person blush when speaking?
  2. Does the person mimic or mirror the same actions?
  3. Does the person maintain an “open” position when standing or sitting?
  4. Does the person move closer or touch when talking?
  5. Does the person maintain eye contact?
  6. Does the person smile a lot?
  7. If in a room full of people, does the person try to make eye contact, even though he or she may be on the other side of the room?
  8. Does the person seem to fidget when around – juggling change in his pocket or twirling her hair?
  9. Does she lick her lips?
  10. Did his or her eyebrows rise slightly?
  11. Are his or her pupils dilated?
  12. Are his shoulders slouching towards the other person?

Answers

1. Blushing is one form of non-verbal communication that cannot be controlled. Blushing can mean many things – anxiety, shyness, shame, anger, or rage – but when coming from someone that seems to be interested, it is probably either a sign of anxiety or shyness, although not necessarily a bad sign. Remember that women wear blusher as make up.

2. Mirroring the actions of another person is a sign that one person likes another. For example, if one person leans forward, the other may lean forward as well. It isn’t often a conscious thing, but definitely is a sign of attraction.

3. The positioning of the body is important in body language. If someone is standing with their arms crossed and their body turned away, this is a sign that they are unhappy or closed off from the other person. However, if the person is turned towards the other one with arms down, this is a good sign. If sitting, look for legs open for a male or crossed for a female but pointing towards the other person as a sign of an “open” position.

4. While most people have a personal space which they don’t like invaded, when people are attracted to each other, they will move closer, often gently touching each other on the leg, arm, or face.

5. Although it varies depending on the culture, many consider holding eye contact as a sign of attraction.

6. Again, it is a cultural thing, but in many cases, people who like each other smile a lot.

7. If someone is interested, he or she may be mingling with others, but their mind is elsewhere and he or she will look around the room to see if they can make eye contact.

8. Chances are a person is fidgeting because he or she is attracted, but nervous, perhaps fearing making the wrong move or saying the wrong thing.

9. When women are attracted to a man, they will often instinctively lick their lips to show interest.

10. It may be hard to catch, but people will often raise their eyebrows slightly when attracted to another person.

11. Dilated pupils are another uncontrollable sign of attraction. Another thing to look for in the eyes is the blink rate. When people are attracted to each other, they often blink more often and in sync.

12. A man will often slouch his shoulders in the direction of a woman when he is attracted.

While studying body language can be helpful, instinct is one of the most important indications as to whether a person is attracted or not. While it is fine to consciously look for physical signs of attraction, the mind will pick up on the most subtle body language and give a person an overall feeling of someone’s attraction.

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Helen - Your Question:
I'd like to ask you for an advice. I'm interested in a guy that I get to see once a week at church, and with whom I share some friends. Now, when I like a guy I tend to ignore him and look at him the less is possible but I Often catch him looking at my direction or, when I look directly at him, at me. Also, when he sits near me, he mimicks me. He touches (fixes)his hair and beard a lot. When we look at eachother he tends to raise his eyebrows a little (like he's surprised). Now, I have talked to him only once. It's a conversation that I've started, asking him for an advice (he's attending college I'm interested at). It seemed like he didn't really want to talk to me (he tried to minimize it). However, when he talks to other girls (which are friends of mine, too) he seems interested in what they're saying and jokes with them a lot. What could this mean? Also, sorry for bad english. Thanks!

Our Response:
Why not try talking to him a bit more, maybe let him know subtly that you are interested? He may seem uninterested to try and cover up what he really feels for you.
BodyLanguageExpert - 20-Sep-16 @ 12:26 PM
I'd like to ask you for an advice. I'm interested in a guy that I get to see once a week at church, and with whom I share some friends. Now, when I like a guy I tend to ignore him and look at him the less is possible but I Often catch him looking at my direction or, when i look directly at him, at me. Also, when he sits near me, he mimicks me. He touches (fixes)his hair and beard a lot. When we look at eachother he tends to raise his eyebrows a little (like he's surprised). Now, I have talked to him only once. It's a conversation that I've started, asking him for an advice (he's attending college i'm interested at). It seemed like he didn't really want to talk to me (he tried to minimize it). However, when he talks to other girls (which are friends of mine, too) he seems interested in what they're saying and jokes with them a lot. What could this mean? Also, sorry for bad english. Thanks!
Helen - 18-Sep-16 @ 7:42 PM
I see him once a week at a youth club. We have a two year age gap but he will be leaving next year when he turns 18 to join the RAF. I've liked him for 6 months, since I joined, and I think he feels the same. Since the start, he's always shown some of the main signs that he likes me. We have lots of little memories like when i first joined he taught me and he's helped me and all these little things, but we aren't friends. On facebook, i sent him a message when I needed help and he replied and helped me. But I sent him a friend request a week or two later but then he turned his fb private a week later and he never accepted or declined my request, but after he changed his privacy settings, noone can add him, only he can add others. On his birthday, a few months later, I sent him a facebook message but he still hasn't seen it but i think that's because of his privacy settings because he saw my message months ago. Then on Instagram, i followed him and I liked one photo when he posted it because it came on my news feed and he is following other girls my age and older but he didn't follow me back, so I unfollowed him a day or two later. But at the normal weekly meetings things were still the same. Last week, i added him on snapchat but he didn't add me back either. But things are still the same. I am not some creepy clingy weirdo obsessed with him. There's been times when he kept turning back to see me and he stared at me and kept looking back from across the room and we've held eye contact a lot but I always end up shying and looking away. He always looks at me. This week, he called me by my surname (as you do in the club) for the first time and I was standing talking to my friends and he walked past and he barged (not in a mean way but like an accident) my arm and I looked to see who it was and it was him but he never said sorry or looked back. It was the first time we had any physical contact. Then, I was being taught shooting properly and he came in my room randomly and then stopped at the door when he saw me and I was being told off (as a joke) so I was smiling and I turned around to see who came in and it was him but I still couldn't stop smiling so I was basically smiling at him and he was looking at me but I felt stupid so I turned back around. Then he went to the other side of the room but came back a second later and stopped and stared at me when I was turned at a slight angle (that's how I knew he was looking at me). Then, when we had to go out the room and put the weapons away, i was the last one coming out and he was coming in and then we passed each other at the door and he looked down immediately and i looked at him but he was looking down, his head was down, too, we were close to each other. But at the end, he held the door open for my friend but not for me. In the past, it's been like he doesn't even look at me or care but then it's like how it was this week and it's like he does. But I don't know, I get so many mixed
Jasmine - 27-Jul-16 @ 2:45 PM
X-man - Your Question:
Ok. There's this girl that is in all of my classes, and she is showing most of these signs, when she is near me, she often twirls her hair as well. I think that she likes me, but I have two problems: 1. I have never been accepted by a girl, I have always been rejected. 2. I have never been good at asking girls out when it comes to body language, staying calm, having confidence, ect. Any advice?

Our Response:
Just go for it. Imagine you are simply talking to one of your friends or a sister and keep your body language as you would if you were just chatting. Try and appear confident even if you're not. Have a good idea about your suggested date (for example a film, a coffee etc) rather than a vague request for a date. Good luck and take note that even the most poplular, confident, good looking guys get rejected and it's no reflection on you if she says no.
BodyLanguageExpert - 23-Feb-16 @ 2:10 PM
Ok. There's this girl that is in all of my classes, and she is showing most of these signs, when she is near me, she often twirls her hair as well. I think that she likes me, but I have two problems: 1. I have never been accepted by a girl, I have always been rejected. 2. I have never been good at asking girls out when it comes to body language, staying calm, having confidence, ect. Any advice?
X-man - 22-Feb-16 @ 4:55 PM
Ok so i like this boy who recently moved. And in school we were great friends. We always worked together,shared interests, and got along really well. One day I stuck a note in his locker. Things got kinda weird after that. I mean he didn't know it was me since i didn't reveal my name. That happened on the last week he was still in school. That was also the last true fully conversation we had.
G.H - 12-Nov-15 @ 11:22 PM
On #9, I licked my lips. xD can it count if we are thinking about him. Or does he have to be in the room when we lick our lips showing interest? And how long does the Displaying of our eyes last? A couple seconds? A minute or two? Everyone we're around that person? Is playing with our hair also a sign? Sorry about the so many questions.
Hollie - 10-Oct-15 @ 4:18 AM
There was a "new" girl in my class..but i didnt know everyone knew her! I was the only one who didnt know her and this day we were partners for A class project and she saw me drawing some little anime characters i made up And she asked do i draw said yep. I asked do you draw? She said heck yea I made a silly face and said Draw a circle and she did a little giggle which Had me uncomfortable at first then she began to appear in all my classes We talked sometimes and in Math class she would stare at me i wouldnt stare back Kinda too shy but i made eye contact and she smiled and bites her lip.... I think i would ask her but i dont know how
Rayzer. - 4-Oct-13 @ 11:37 PM
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